What if a new romantic interest wants you to carry stuff through customs? [closed]
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Say there's a relatively new romantic interest (e.g. a month old, dating exclusively). But all of a sudden they want to bring over a dozen large boxes of candy from a foreign country as gifts for their friends. They want you to help by taking half of those boxes through customs.
How best to handle this situation?
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asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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Say there's a relatively new romantic interest (e.g. a month old, dating exclusively). But all of a sudden they want to bring over a dozen large boxes of candy from a foreign country as gifts for their friends. They want you to help by taking half of those boxes through customs.
How best to handle this situation?
customs-and-immigration
asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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closed as unclear what you're asking by choster, Jan, Ali Awan, Michael, Giorgio Aug 17 '17 at 13:59
Please clarify your specific problem or add additional details to highlight exactly what you need. As it's currently written, it’s hard to tell exactly what you're asking. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
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And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
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Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
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I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
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As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
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I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44
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Say there's a relatively new romantic interest (e.g. a month old, dating exclusively). But all of a sudden they want to bring over a dozen large boxes of candy from a foreign country as gifts for their friends. They want you to help by taking half of those boxes through customs.
How best to handle this situation?
customs-and-immigration
asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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Say there's a relatively new romantic interest (e.g. a month old, dating exclusively). But all of a sudden they want to bring over a dozen large boxes of candy from a foreign country as gifts for their friends. They want you to help by taking half of those boxes through customs.
How best to handle this situation?
customs-and-immigration
customs-and-immigration
asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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asked Aug 17 '17 at 0:18
Brad Thomas
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closed as unclear what you're asking by choster, Jan, Ali Awan, Michael, Giorgio Aug 17 '17 at 13:59
Please clarify your specific problem or add additional details to highlight exactly what you need. As it's currently written, it’s hard to tell exactly what you're asking. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
closed as unclear what you're asking by choster, Jan, Ali Awan, Michael, Giorgio Aug 17 '17 at 13:59
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And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
6
Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
5
I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
3
As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
4
I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44
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5
And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
6
Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
5
I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
3
As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
4
I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44
5
5
And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
6
6
Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
5
5
I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
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3
As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
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I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44
I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44
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How best to handle this situation?
Are you not comfortable with the personal side or the customs side of this situation? If it's the personal relationship side, and you're not comfortable, then don't do it.
If it's the customs side of it, I'd say go for it. If it is you buying the candy, from a regular store, where you picked it from the shelf, and paid for it with your money, then I don't see any downside to that. People bring gifts for others all the time. As long as you don't exceed the limits for bringing gifts into the country, then you should be fine.
A huge red flag would be if this new romantic interest told you to go to some shady store, and ask a stranger for 12 boxes of chocolate, and you don't know what is in it, then I wouldn't do it.
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
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I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
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BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
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How best to handle this situation?
Are you not comfortable with the personal side or the customs side of this situation? If it's the personal relationship side, and you're not comfortable, then don't do it.
If it's the customs side of it, I'd say go for it. If it is you buying the candy, from a regular store, where you picked it from the shelf, and paid for it with your money, then I don't see any downside to that. People bring gifts for others all the time. As long as you don't exceed the limits for bringing gifts into the country, then you should be fine.
A huge red flag would be if this new romantic interest told you to go to some shady store, and ask a stranger for 12 boxes of chocolate, and you don't know what is in it, then I wouldn't do it.
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
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I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
2
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
add a comment |
up vote
15
down vote
How best to handle this situation?
Are you not comfortable with the personal side or the customs side of this situation? If it's the personal relationship side, and you're not comfortable, then don't do it.
If it's the customs side of it, I'd say go for it. If it is you buying the candy, from a regular store, where you picked it from the shelf, and paid for it with your money, then I don't see any downside to that. People bring gifts for others all the time. As long as you don't exceed the limits for bringing gifts into the country, then you should be fine.
A huge red flag would be if this new romantic interest told you to go to some shady store, and ask a stranger for 12 boxes of chocolate, and you don't know what is in it, then I wouldn't do it.
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
4,09311035
3
I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
2
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
add a comment |
up vote
15
down vote
up vote
15
down vote
How best to handle this situation?
Are you not comfortable with the personal side or the customs side of this situation? If it's the personal relationship side, and you're not comfortable, then don't do it.
If it's the customs side of it, I'd say go for it. If it is you buying the candy, from a regular store, where you picked it from the shelf, and paid for it with your money, then I don't see any downside to that. People bring gifts for others all the time. As long as you don't exceed the limits for bringing gifts into the country, then you should be fine.
A huge red flag would be if this new romantic interest told you to go to some shady store, and ask a stranger for 12 boxes of chocolate, and you don't know what is in it, then I wouldn't do it.
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
4,09311035
How best to handle this situation?
Are you not comfortable with the personal side or the customs side of this situation? If it's the personal relationship side, and you're not comfortable, then don't do it.
If it's the customs side of it, I'd say go for it. If it is you buying the candy, from a regular store, where you picked it from the shelf, and paid for it with your money, then I don't see any downside to that. People bring gifts for others all the time. As long as you don't exceed the limits for bringing gifts into the country, then you should be fine.
A huge red flag would be if this new romantic interest told you to go to some shady store, and ask a stranger for 12 boxes of chocolate, and you don't know what is in it, then I wouldn't do it.
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
4,09311035
answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
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answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
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answered Aug 17 '17 at 2:27
Michael
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I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
2
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
add a comment |
3
I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
2
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
3
3
I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
I once carried an audio tape recording for a complete stranger. Nothing happened. Nobody picked it up after I crossed. It made me feel uneasy the entire flight. I don't carry stuff for strangers anymore.
– greatone
Aug 17 '17 at 5:48
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What was on the tape?
– MastaBaba
Aug 17 '17 at 14:37
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
What difference does it make whose money? The important thing is you buy it from a store you pick.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:45
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
@LorenPechtel That is true. I guess I was making the assumption OP was going to be given a credit card or something traceable.
– Michael
Aug 17 '17 at 14:46
2
2
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
BTW, also ensure that the candy is under your control after purchase--no way they can swap boxes.
– Loren Pechtel
Aug 17 '17 at 14:55
add a comment |
5
And if it's not just candy, but something more sinister, then you're probably in for a pretty unpleasant experience no matter whether you knew about it or not. You might avoid the jail sentence at the end if you can somehow prove you didn't know about it.
– Greg Hewgill
Aug 17 '17 at 0:39
6
Nope. Just nope. Don't ever carry anything for anyone.
– Moo
Aug 17 '17 at 0:48
5
I don't think we have enough information to really answer. If I'm visiting a friend overseas and he asks me to bring some gifts, I have no problem buying them from local stores and bringing them with me. I would know what is in those packages as much as anything I buy from any store. If someone I've known for just a month is handing me strange packages from who knows where and is asking me to carry them across borders, then I'm not doing that. So which is it here?
– Zach Lipton
Aug 17 '17 at 3:11
3
As worded, this is asking for relationship advice, not travel advice. I'm not sure if there is a stack for that.
– choster
Aug 17 '17 at 3:55
4
I'd echo that. If the friend says: "Please buy some X candy and give it to Y" then, subject to practical issues, I would. However, if they said: "Please take this box for me" then I would not. I would need to know someone way longer than a month to trust with something like that. It could be embarrassing to decline but it could be much worse to accept.
– badjohn
Aug 17 '17 at 7:44